Sunday, August 17, 2014

Is Age Really Just a Number?

Hi friends! I hope everyone had a great weekend! The last week has been a busy one for me with orientation for grad school that was THREE days long!  Day 1 was spent hearing from the deans and counselors basically trying to scare the heck out of us. And guess what, it worked! Class starts this week and I am nerv-ous! Day 2 was team building with a scavenger hunt and a community service project. Day 3 was meeting with some recruiters and then we had a social that night at a block party downtown. Afterwards a group of us all went out and had a good time.

So the breakdown of the full-time students are that there are 32 of us starting this fall. Of those there are 6 girls. At first, this seems like great odds, right? Well, then there is the statistic that I am only one of 4 people over the age of 30. I am like the old maid of the group. The remaining people are split between coming straight from under grad and being a couple of years out. Now, I assumed I would be on the older side of the spectrum but maybe not quite to this extent. I am sure I will meet older people in the night classes where there are part time people who classically are an older demographic.

This weekend a group of 10 of us went out (almost all of us are from out of state and don't know anyone here). A few times I made a couple of jokes about me being so much older than them. Then it got me thinking, no else seems to have an issue with the age difference or my age in particular except me. I think sometimes I can be a little mean to the guys who are considerably younger than me and really I shouldn't. I was that age once too. When I started off my career I was used to always being the youngest in the room. Then you hit your 30s and you look around and you are not the youngest anymore. Especially if you are still single. Now all your friends are married and having kids and they stop going out. I will say I definitely don't go out as much as I did in my mid-late 20s but I still enjoy a night out but if I want to do that then inevitably I am going to have to go out with a younger crowd... which basically makes me feel even older!
me and all the bay-bays... we look the same age, riiiiight?!
When it comes to dating, I have never, ever been attracted to someone younger than me. Heck, even if they are my age I am still skeptical. But isn't age just a number? They say you are as old as you feel or act - and lately with my attitude, I am acting like a crabby, old lady. I am also making snap judgements about people just because of their age and that's wrong. Just because someone is younger, than me doesn't mean I can't enjoy their company or learn something new, etc. It's about the person, who they are and how they treat you. These people are not treating me any differently because I am older, it's my own hang up and really, I need to just get over myself.

So I am going to turn a new leaf and work on being more openminded. Who knows what opportunities I could be missing out on because I am being judgmental or worried about what other people think... because really, when it comes down to it, I am the only one who is thinking about it. No else really cares!